I have had a hard time dealing with how my abdomen looks since I have healed from my last operation. I have a large scar that hasn't fully healed with two staples exposed down the middle of my stomach, a whole on my right side from an incision that became infected, my scar on my left side from my second cancer operation, and my belly button is a few centimeters to the right of where it should be. Needless to say, I am not looking to go to the beach or pool without a shirt, but I am scared to death to take off my shirt. I am afraid of what people will think and say.
I am always nervous that my wife won't find me attractive anymore, but she has constantly told me that they are my battle scars and that I look sexy. God, how I love this woman. I still don't know how I got so lucky! This got me thinking about how we as a society define "beauty". More than ever, we equate beauty with looks. We look at celebrities from Jessica Alba and Chris Hemsworth, to Jenny McCarthy and Joe Maganiello and the first thing that comes to mind is wow, they are gorgeous, Men and Woman bust their asses at the gym just to look halfway as good as they do. On the flip side, especially with being able to hide in the darkness of social media, we have become a cruel society. We make unnecessary comments about how Kim Kardashian and the rest of her family looks. No wonder why I, and many people, feel this way!
What I am trying to drill into my dumb ass head is that my wife is right. (Don't tell her I said that!) Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It is not how you look on the outside. Whether you are heavy set, scarred, missing a limb, or can't see or hear, what matters most is the journey that you have taken. The obstacles you have overcome, and most importantly how you treat your wife, children, family, and fellow man/woman. As the line from the Christina Aguilera song goes, "I am beautiful no matter what they say."
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